I recently had a bad experience with a Facebook ‘friend’. It was an uncalled for encounter, but it happened nevertheless. You see, said ‘friend’ thought the world was his. He figured that his personality and individuality was under attack wherever he ‘went’, so he felt the need to lash out at anything that seemed remotely discriminating towards his particular view of things that are and things that be.

A prowl around the profile of this ‘friend’ suggested that he was indeed a peculiar person. There are circumstantial indications that this ‘friend’ is a homosexual. He hides his real name and uses a pseudonym instead. Now, I do not hold this against him. I just do not appreciate that he would use any opportunity to point out how different he his and make everybody else feel bad about it.

He has been alienated in many a discussions on Facebook groups that I have participated in. He has claimed not to believe in God. Again, he is entitled to his opinions, but he doesn’t understand what respect is. He doesn’t understand that people he interacts with will appreciate who he is if he lets them. Instead he pushes them away.

Recently, another really close friend posted the attached photo on her profile, and tagged a lot of us – her real life friends – in the picture. We all had a good laugh about the photo…


… until the other ‘friend’ arrived on the scene. His argument was that people should not make an issue out of the picture since under all the masculinity, men have the innate need to showcase their feminine sides. Then he proceeded to accuse us of “tok nogud lo” our friends in the photo – with an implication that the guys in the photo might be living in the closet.

From then on, it became a heated discussion about his sexuality. It would never have gone that way had the said ‘friend’ not implied that we were making fun of the probable fact that the guys may be closeted homosexuals – which they are certainly not.

As a courtesy, I chatted him up via Facebook’s chat and kindly asked him to stop ruining the fun in the discussions because his comments were too personal, rude, and he was making people uncomfortable. His response was to firstly describe me in colorful terms and then proceeded to block me – so I was not able to contact him any further.

This brings me to the point of this elongated monologue. When you choose to be different from the rest of society, do not forget to maintain the respect that exists between you and the rest of us. It’s the only way that we can be able to begin to understand you as an individual. When you start disrespecting us, we WILL ridicule your individualism.